Difficult Marriage

Dear Church, She Wasn’t Averse to Regular Marriage Conflict
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Dear Church, She Wasn’t Averse to Regular Marriage Conflict

Spouses in destructive marriages are often accused of having an aversion to marriage conflict. They are told to develop relationship muscles to help them address and solve relationship problems. tw: betrayal “Everyone says something they don’t mean. Everyone forgets sometimes. Come on, he’s begging for forgiveness” is said to the wife, who confesses she no…

Why Women Don’t Know If Their Marriages Are Harmful
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Why Women Don’t Know If Their Marriages Are Harmful

Many women in unsafe marriages don’t know their marriages are draining the life out of them. And one of the reasons they don’t know their marriages are killing them is because, in the Christian world, most (if not all) problems in marriage are presented as “normal marriage issues everyone goes through.” Even when a plain-to-see…

How Christians Can Stop Giving Bad Marriage Advice
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How Christians Can Stop Giving Bad Marriage Advice

Christian marriage advice: how can we stop getting it wrong? When I talk about destructive marriages, periodically, someone in the comments will bring up the importance of the marriage commitment. They’ll talk about how couples should practice “grace” in marriage. How they should trust God and follow Biblical counsel (vs “worldly” advice.) Why abusive men…

Why God Will Not Change a Marriage When a Spouse Clings to Harmful Ways
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Why God Will Not Change a Marriage When a Spouse Clings to Harmful Ways

Biblical advice for marriage problems is a common search phrase in online search engines. Christians want to know what God says about marriage problems. Whenever I write about free will and how God does not override it to change a marriage, I get comments like “Let’s not limit God”  or “How about Paul?” Or “Nebuchadnezzer?”…