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“Marriage is not supposed to make you happy; it’s a ministry” is a message that can lead to terrible outcomes for women. This week, a reader sent me a video clip of someone being interviewed on national TV.* In the video, she argues that marriage is not intended to make us happy because it’s a…
Christians are still asking “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?” A few readers have pitched the question in my direction as an argument for why marriage is hard and why everyone should persevere in challenging times. Now, I have compassion for evangelical and conservative Christians who…
Why is it so hard for some to explore why people leave the church? Why do Christians like to focus on “don’t forsake the gathering” while giving little to no attention to the quality of gatherings? Last week, I wrote a blog post, asking whether one can be a Christian if they are no longer…
When Christians no longer go to church, are they still Christian? I don’t know when attending a church service became THE sign that one is a Christian. But here we were. Many people believe attending church is the primary indicator of one’s faith. The thinking is so strong that not being part of a church…
Binary thinking forms a significant part of evangelical fundamentalism. Binary thinking “refers to the tendency to view things in strict black-and-white terms, often ignoring the nuances and complexities that exist within any given situation. It involves categorizing concepts, people, or ideas into two opposing and mutually exclusive groups, without considering the possibility of a spectrum…
What do you do when your spouse is chronically irresponsible? The message from evangelical Christianity is to keep trying. In the past few years, I have read and listened to countless stories from Christian women who are married to chronically irresponsible spouses.* A common theme in their stories is the pressure from pastors, biblical counselors,…