Two weeks ago, my husband and I embarked on 4-day, 1,600 miles road trip from Maryland to Texas.
My rock star man drove 98% of the way!
In my last post, I promised to share lessons and pictures from our adventure.
Here they are; 6 fun marriage lessons from our move!
1. We like each other
We sent some pictures to a friend who jokingly said she was happy with our smiles because it meant we hadn’t killed each other!
She was right! Not that we didn’t have opportunity to get on each others nerves (see #2) but we just enjoyed each others company.
It’s nice to remember how much you like your spouse!
2. Disagreements are natural. Moreover, it is okay not to “feel good” after it’s over.
Being on the road and planning ahead for a new life in a new state created opportunity for misunderstanding as internal pressures and anxieties bubbled over.
Sometimes you do not know how worried you are until a small thing zips up the temperature in the car! We had a big blow up on the road, and my man was first to apologize.
I, on the other hand, was more concerned about piercing together the pieces of the misunderstanding; if we are going to make-up, at least let us dissect the disagreement first!
Unfortunately, the approach misfired. Talk of wasting time in blues-ville, trying to untangle emotions while husband moved on!
Eventually, it occurred to me that I was the only person in that car in need of a mental dissection, of the issue. Hubby was all right, that is why he moved on!
Sometimes I want everything to feel right after we’ve smoothed out an issue. However, I need to remember that disagreements will not always leave a good taste in my mouth, even after they are resolved.
3. Fun marriage lessons – the desire for hearth is real
After many days of drinking from paper cups, I was done. I wanted a mug! My mug. Not a Denny’s restaurant cup or a cup from a hotel.
We were almost in San Antonio before I realized my longing was not for a mug, but for a home. The desire for hearth is real. At least for this girl.
4. I do not thank him enough
I know, not fun. We finally got to San Antonio and began house hunting. My wish list was the size of Texas, but so were my concerns, primarily because of our budget.
We found a great apartment home and though it beautiful, it was a little out of our budget. We talked it out till we were dry-mouthed!
Finally Tommy turned and asked, “Do you like this house?”
My “yes” ended the house hunt.
Sometimes I forget how awesome my husband! Until I am in the middle of a storm, and he calms it with decisiveness.
As wives we can be so caught up and forget the ways our husbands love us. I need to remember to notice what he does and how he does it and thank him more often.
5. We are a team
We were out shopping for household things when my husband dropped down and began studying kitchen items.
This guy, who rarely cooks, was talking about colors and choosing the design of cutlery and kitchenware!
For a split second I wanted to remind him of the small matter of his absence in the kitchen but then remembered we are a team; he has as much say, even in areas I consider my domain.
Being an acts of service girl, his kitchen engagements were rather appealing 😉
6. He is a dude aka he is different
We had a long laugh when I asked him to unpack a box of new water glasses and he left the empty box container on the counter top, next to the glasses, instead of discarding it in the trash.
I asked him why he left the carton instead of throwing it out and he forwarded the following image to my phone.
I read it twice and still didn’t get it. Maybe you’ll get it the first time.
Fun marriage lessons and our new life in San Antonio
Texas in general, with its wide open spaces, rugged vegetation and stone-facade buildings reminds me of my nation of birth, Kenya; it’s beautiful.
We love the warmth and sunshine (cannot tell you how quickly our naturally dark African skin has darkened even further!) We are almost all settled in, and we are loving it.
Last Sunday, we attended our first church service and goodness, the church campuses are huge! They don’t build them that big in the East Coast (MD).
People have been warning us to brace for the heat of summer; but we do not mind heat! Given us long hot summers instead of long frozen winters, any day!
I had a few people reach out from Texas the last time I announced meet-ups when we lived in Maryland. I would love to meet you!
If you live near or around San Antonio/Austin area and would like to meet with me (one-on-one) or couple-to-couple (my husband and I, you and your spouse), email me here and let me know!
If you live further out but would like to meet when I am in your area, let me know too, and I’ll put that on my calendar.
If you are wondering what meetups are all about, click here to find out!
If you have a group or church event and would like to invite me to speak, click here for my speaking details.
Your turn! Have you been on a road trip before? What was the highlight of your trip? Any fun marriage lessons from the trip? Lets chat in Comments!
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