Author: Ngina Otiende

Hi! I'm Ngina and I'm a certified marriage coach, author, and blogger. I'm on a mission to help women find clarity so they can begin to address problems. I examine unhealthy relationship advice and how elevating the marriage institution above individual welfare has harmed us. I love Jesus, my sweet guy and a hot cup of tea.. Join the Adventure
Should Pastors Confess Sins Publicly? Should We Forgive and Forget?
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Should Pastors Confess Sins Publicly? Should We Forgive and Forget?

Should pastors confess sins publicly? Or should we all just “forgive and forget”? Yesterday, on Facebook, I posted about the senior pastor of Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship Church in Dallas, who announced that he is stepping aside due to “sin” he committed years ago. Many people have added their thoughts in the comments—many diverse views….

How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives
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How Hard is Marriage? Sanity-Saving Tips For Wives

“Marriage is hard” is how some spouses avoid taking individual responsibility in marriage. When I was newly married, I thought all problems between a couple were something both people needed to work on: All issues were solvable. Even where one person was at fault, I was taught that prayer, patience, and better instruction would fix…

God and Divorce – A Brief Exploration of Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:9
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God and Divorce – A Brief Exploration of Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:9

A few weeks ago, I was interviewed on a podcast where we discussed, among other things, divorce and what the Bible has to say. Bible verses like Malachi 2:16 and Matthew 19:9 have been interpreted in ways that make it difficult for people in unsafe situations to find safety and for those in healthy marriages…

31 Lies Women Are Taught About Marriage 
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31 Lies Women Are Taught About Marriage 

A couple of weeks back, I asked women about the biggest lies they had been taught or believed about marriage. So many responded and shared how those beliefs influenced their self-perceptions and relationships. What struck me was how so many could relate to other people’s experiences/beliefs. When some Christians say, “It’s not that bad,” I wish they…

Dear Conservative Christians, Maybe The World Isn’t Trying to Emasculate Men 
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Dear Conservative Christians, Maybe The World Isn’t Trying to Emasculate Men 

A week ago, Harrison Butker, the kicker for the Kansas City Chiefs, made headlines for a speech he delivered at Benedictine College, a private Catholic university in Kansas. In his 20-minute speech, the 28-year-old weighed in on different issues. It is his message to the graduating women that I want to address. I re-shared a short clip on my Facebook page….