Author: Ngina Otiende

Hi! I'm Ngina and I'm a certified marriage coach, author, and blogger. I'm on a mission to help women find clarity so they can begin to address problems. I examine unhealthy relationship advice and how elevating the marriage institution above individual welfare has harmed us. I love Jesus, my sweet guy and a hot cup of tea.. Join the Adventure
Dear High-Conflict Couple, Not Every Troubled Marriage Can Have Your Results
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Dear High-Conflict Couple, Not Every Troubled Marriage Can Have Your Results

Married Christians, just because your marriage weathered high conflict doesn’t mean every couple with high conflict can address their specific problems and have a good marriage.  The longer I’m in this space, the more I see Christians pulling from their personal experience in a high-conflict marriage and asserting all marriage hardship can be addressed and resolved.  They might say…

Does God Require Suffering and What That Means For Marriage
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Does God Require Suffering and What That Means For Marriage

Does God require our suffering? According to some Christians, the answer is “Yes.”  High-control, works-based Christianity says our faith is not legitimate if it’s not accompanied by struggle or drudgery.   Expressions like “the price of the anointing” “salvation is free, but the anointing is not”1 might not be familiar to all Christians, but those with evangelical/fundamentalist/conservative roots are…

Does the Complementarian Marriage Model Contradict Itself?
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Does the Complementarian Marriage Model Contradict Itself?

Imagine sitting through lectures, receiving critical education, and the only way to pass the class is by not following the core principles being taught.   In the real world, how long would that subject be taught its current form?   The self-contradiction within a complementarian marriage is that a marriage is only good when couples don’t follow…