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What do you do when your spouse is chronically irresponsible? The message from evangelical Christianity is to keep trying. In the past few years, I have read and listened to countless stories from Christian women who are married to chronically irresponsible spouses.* A common theme in their stories is the pressure from pastors, biblical counselors,…
If a partner says they will change specifically for you, run. Or at least, don’t believe them. Watch. Wait. But don’t be taken. People who promise to change for reasons outside of themselves are not reliable sources of information. (Whether they realize it or not.) Lasting change is not something we do solely for others….
Belief, rather than a Bible verse, is what many in high-stress and traumatic circumstances need. When they finally gather up the courage to share their truth, they are hoping for an empathetic witness. Validation. But quite often, they are met with anything but that. And one of the reasons for that is Christians were handed…
It doesn’t matter how much pastors “apologize” if they don’t start with the truth. On Tuesday, Robert Morris, the senior leader of Gateway Church officially resigned. His resignation came a few days after admitting to an “inappropriate sexual behavior with a young lady” 35 years ago. But “young lady” she was not. “Inappropriate sexual behavior”…
“Marriage is hard” is how some spouses avoid taking individual responsibility in marriage. When I was newly married, I thought all problems between a couple were something both people needed to work on: All issues were solvable. Even where one person was at fault, I was taught that prayer, patience, and better instruction would fix…
“It’s a continuation, not an ending,” my husband said. Last week, I unpublished my books and courses (meaning they are not available on the various platforms) and over two hundred blog posts (moved to “trash” pending edits or permanent deletion.) I have been writing about marriage since I was a newlywed myself. While I have…