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Last week on Facebook, I wrote about how “change” without lasting fruit isn’t really change. I suggested those impacted by hurtful behavior shouldn’t be asked to settle for “change” that is not accompanied by real-life transformation of character that shows up in daily interactions. Many evangelical and other conservative faith spaces elevate a “love” that…
“Not all churches.” Every so often, after reading my writings about marital and religious harm, someone will decide to let everybody know that what they just read does not apply to every situation. I am okay with fine distinction. But where there’s a history of minimizing, deflecting, and blame-shifting whenever harm is called out, we…
Did Bathsheba matter? This past Sunday, on my Facebook page, I shared a quote from Diane Langberg’s book, Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church. The quote read, “King David was Bathsheba’s Harvey Weinstein.” In the caption, I added, “Somewhere in a church today, there’s a sermon about David and Bathsheba, and it…
What does it mean to be intentional in your marriage? He said I was a snob. We were on our first date. Well, “two church friends chatting over tea and fries” as our missionary fundamentalist church didn’t allow dating. The friendship didn’t last, but the idea that to be clear-eyed = snobbish did. And although…
What if my husband doesn’t know he’s hurting me? “Some men grow up in dysfunction. Their inner world is so up-side down they don’t know how “healthy” looks like. What if my husband is just repeating behavior he witnessed growing up? What if he doesn’t know?” Women in hurting marriages sometimes struggle with these questions….
A few days ago, a male content creator shared about the criticism he receives from fellow men when he addresses poor behavior by men without caveats. According to his critics, adding “not all men” or “some men” in his commentary would make it clear to everyone that he’s not referring to all man/not all men…