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Have you been told to love your spouse more than yourself? Have you heard you can’t have a good marriage unless you push your needs and desires to the back of the line, permanently? Have you been shamed for having normal human yearnings – like wanting to be honored and respected, needing safety, peace and…
Married individuals are encouraged to sacrifice in marriage. And in a healthy marriage, spouses can indeed cultivate a tender and compassionate awareness of each other’s needs. They can talk about seasons, their varying pulls, and how they can support each other. If each person maintains autonomy, and the sacrificial love goes both ways (i.e both…
My husband had an affair, should I forgive him? is a question many betrayed women wrestle with. The internal and external query to “forgive, forget and reconcile” with their betraying spouse is heavy and constant. So it’s bewildering when marriage advisers, who, ideally, should know better, step into their space and muddy up the waters….
What are the signs of a spiritually abusive church? Since I shifted my focus from primarily discussing marriage to including domestic abuse awareness, I’ve been thinking about the red flags I witnessed in the conservative/evangelical churches I’ve been a part of. Individuals experiencing domestic violence, infidelity, addictions, and neglect in their marriages who approach their…
Can being a good wife fix a bad husband? A woman shared the advice her pastor gave her when she confided about abuse in her marriage: “Women have ways of getting a man to do whatever they want, and so a rebellious husband is the fruit of a disobedient wife.” A lot to take in,…
Why does the church fail to condemn the wickedness that leads to divorce? A few months ago, I shared a post on Facebook, pleading with churches to address the real issues that lead to divorce instead of constantly denouncing the often life-saving act of divorce. “Instead of denouncing divorce, why don’t Christians condemn the wickedness…