It’s Here! My Book The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality, Health, and Happiness in Marriage is Now Available!

Is it possible to have a happy marriage..without gender-specific roles, 24/7 sacrifice, and the death of your personhood? 

We know that growth and fulfillment as a couple are not handed on a silver platter, but what if cultural and religious conditioning makes the intentional work of marriage significantly harder?

What if you could learn how health, happiness, and mutuality are part of the marriage design…and be empowered when the relationship operates outside the framework of kindness, respect, and maturity?

Often, marriage is presented as that place where we all learn how to shove ourselves to the back of the line…for the sake of the relationship.

Marriage seems to be the one place where you cannot prioritize both yourself and your partner. We’re told we have to choose. That God’s design for marriage doesn’t include happiness, dignity, beauty, calm and joy for both. That “pleasing God” means accepting a life of drudgery and little to no expectations for growth.

What if I told you that you don’t have to give up the hope and dreams of a happy healthy connection where both spouses matter? 

My book, The Newlyweds: Pursuing Mutuality, Health, and Happiness in Marriage is now available!

I am thrilled about this book because it provides the skills and discernment to co-create a healthy, mutual, connected marriage, AND clarity for when a relationship is operating outside of the framework of respect and honor. 

We’re told that we have to choose between making our partner happy and being happy but turns out we don’t have to choose. Healthy marriages do not have unequal power dynamics!

What You Get When You Order The Newlyweds:

Here’s what I cover inside The Newlyweds

• Clarity for how a healthy mutual marriage dynamic actually looks like (no more second guessing!)
• How to make sure “marriage is hard” thinking does not become your baseline.
• Discerning where you end and your partner begins.
• A simple way to avoid chasing appearances (you deserve authenticity)
• How to be intentional with life and each other…without bursting your margins
• The latest research on mutual, pleasurable, fun sex (because both spouses matter!)
• My personal setup for spouses to address unspoken expectations to marriage
• Super practical tips for healthy spirituality (because faith isn’t what makes us good.)
• The biggest difference between conversations that fall flat and those that spark deep intimacy
• The quick hack that turns “bleh” into sparks (hint it involves your favorite things!)
• Simple and clear illustrations for unhealthy/harming dynamics plus a list of resources to make it easy to find help if your spouse practices a wounding style of relating.

This week only, the Ebook version is going for $8.99, the Paperback for $9.99 and the Hardcover for $17.99! The price will go up this Friday, February 14th, 2025 at 4 PM Central Time.

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PS: The Newlyweds is fabulous gift idea! Gift the newlyweds, engaged or seriously couple in your life!

What readers are saying:

“Ngina has hit another walk-off home run!  In the 27 years since I got married, I have never read a book that handled BOTH healthy and unhealthy marriages with such boldness and grace. Ngina has done a masterful job of offering wise and insightful counsel to mature, good-willed people who are trying to make sense of the adjustments they have faced since saying, “I do”. She has also pulled zero punches in calling out behaviors which indicate that all is NOT well in the Land of Wedded Bliss.” Kelly M.

The Newlyweds delves into essential themes of a healthy marriage: mutuality, expectations, communication, sex, intimacy, spirituality, finances, intentionality…without surface-level platitudes and over-simplified answers. Get the clarity, discernment and relationship skills you need to co-create a healthy, mutual, connected marriage...from day one.

*The first edition of The Newlyweds book was published several years ago under the title Blues to Bliss: Creating Your Happily Ever After in the Early Years, but as I developed a more nuanced understanding of marriage, I realized I had much more to say.

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