I thought I knew all (or some’) about respect and how to give it to my husband.
Observing my tone of voice, seeking unity instead of my own way, admiring him and telling him how much I love him, being warm and affectionate and things like these.
Then last week I read a post titled “How to get the respect we deserve when all she wants to do is love.”
Written by a husband, the post outlines the different ways a husband would like to be respected and how respect is different from love. (I’ll share the link to the post at the bottom of this post, please read it)
As I read through, I realized that I don’t always realize how different love and respect are.
Which means a lot of times I will be loving on my husband and thinking that it suffices and meets his need for respect.
What speaks love and respect?
Being affectionate, keeping a good home, using supportive and encouraging words and actions are great. In fact one of my husband’s primary love language is words of affirmation.
But more often, these are the things that speak love to me. It’s how I like him to love me; being tender, attentive, helping around the house.
Not necessarily what speaks respect to him.
So I gave myself some homework and decided to ask him the different ways I could show him respect.
And I was going to share some of it with you but it’s been a little busy at our house we haven’t had time to sit down and chat about it.
We are still going to talk about it but I thought hey, why not invite you to join up and have a chat with your man?
Find some time (preferably when both of your are relaxed) and ask your husband what (actions, words e.t.c) communicate respect to him.
Even if you don’t get a flawless answer 🙂 at least it gets you thinking and communicates something to your husband.
Then after he tells you the two or three things – or a list of things – that communicate respect, begin to put them into practice 🙂
*Here’s the link to the post mentioned above – Click here. Make sure you read it before you do your homework! Update – Unfortunately the link to the post that inspired this article no longer works. It appears the website is no longer operational.
*Dr. Emerson Eggerichs has a great book on the subject, titled “Love and Respect: The love she most desires, the respect he desperately needs.” Check it out for deeper insights.
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