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How Christians Can Stop Giving Bad Marriage Advice
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How Christians Can Stop Giving Bad Marriage Advice

Christian marriage advice: how can we stop getting it wrong? When I talk about destructive marriages, periodically, someone in the comments will bring up the importance of the marriage commitment. They’ll talk about how couples should practice “grace” in marriage. How they should trust God and follow Biblical counsel (vs “worldly” advice.) Why abusive men…

The Problem with Churches Asking Couples to Commit to “No Divorce”
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The Problem with Churches Asking Couples to Commit to “No Divorce”

I’ve heard of churches offering prayers for no divorce. Pastors, marriage leaders or elders ask couples to go forward or stand up during a church service to receive prayers for their marriages, including “no divorce” declarations. And I have a big problem with that. The Problem With Churches Offering Prayers for No Divorce Instead of…

Why God Will Not Change a Marriage When a Spouse Clings to Harmful Ways
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Why God Will Not Change a Marriage When a Spouse Clings to Harmful Ways

Biblical advice for marriage problems is a common search phrase in online search engines. Christians want to know what God says about marriage problems. Whenever I write about free will and how God does not override it to change a marriage, I get comments like “Let’s not limit God”  or “How about Paul?” Or “Nebuchadnezzer?”…

Dear Christians, Divorce is Not The First Thing She Thinks About (Here’s Why)
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Dear Christians, Divorce is Not The First Thing She Thinks About (Here’s Why)

Often, divorce is not the first thing that pops into a woman’s mind when her destructive spouse starts to pick her apart. But many Christians believe it is. So when a woman risks everything and opens up about her suffering, there’s a mad rush by Christians to “close the exits.” And they shutter up the…