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“How is marriage?” After a few months of being married, I found this question was as common as my morning cup of tea. I now know what folks wanted to hear: that marriage is fun and exciting and that I was on the upswing every single day. Unfortunately, while marriage was sweet and exciting, it…
Is it possible to have a happy marriage..without gender-specific roles, 24/7 sacrifice, and the death of your personhood? We know that growth and fulfillment as a couple are not handed on a silver platter, but what if cultural and religious conditioning makes the intentional work of marriage significantly harder? What if you could learn how…
“Men have a soft underbelly.” His tone was low and conspiratorial. The kind that made you feel like you were learning a well-kept secret. I don’t know if the men in our congregation relished having their secrets outed out like that. But I know our pastor’s admission that men are not a solid block of…
The Christian marriage advice space is filled with individuals presenting personal preferences as absolutes. Let’s take finances, for example. A while ago, I asked on my Facebook page how many people were advised to open joint bank accounts or merge their finances in some way. In the comments, many talked of joint bank accounts being…
I’ve been away from the blog, recovering from surgery and while away, someone left a comment under an older post on Instagram that got me thinking. Now, we can’t influence people who don’t want to wrestle with a different point of view. A part of me knows that. But another part really wants to convince…
Have you heard the saying, “Married people give up too easily”? Or its cousin, “Married Christians just need to trust God more?” Have you noticed how this duo often appears when discussing deeply problematic marriage situations? While not every “hard marriage” has dynamics of power and control (and some people end their marriage for reasons…